Finding that special someone can sometimes be very challenging. For singles who want to be in a relationship part of the issue becomes where to meet people and how to find love. In a time where the Steve Harveys of the world write relationship books telling women how to get a man and give advice through letter submissions, Troy Spry has taken a different approach on teaching both men and women how to love.
“There is a lack of narrative about positive relationships and marriages and I want to help create a healthy outlook on marriage. I’ve built a platform to make people better. My mission is to first inspire people to become better people so that they can become better mates, which will foster an environment for better relationships and ultimately help build better communities,” says the certified relationship coach.
His focus is on dating and how to choose a good mate. He wants to help people expand their social circle and choose more wisely in the beginning stages of dating. For the married folks his motivation is to teach how to best love your mate through actions.
When asked how he got started and why he wants to have a platform centered around relationships, Spry says even as a child he liked expressing himself, mainly through writing. “When I was a kid I wrote poetry and would write poems for my friends to give to their girlfriends.”
Writing has helped him get through some of the toughest times of his life, including when his mother passed away when he was 27. “My first blog was called ‘A Mother’s Love’ and it got a lot of feedback.” From there he kept writing about what came natural to him, which was relationships. Having graduated with a bachelor’s degree in psychology, he naturally has an interest in human behavior and why people do what they do.
The response he got was so well received he decided to write a book about it. “Teach Me How to Love” teaches people how to get out of their own way and make relationships work, whether its a potential relationship, new relationship, a long-term one, or a marriage.
So how does Troy bring people together outside of his writing?
He has what he refers to as conversation parties that were birthed from his Twitter lunchtime discussions. He would ask a question and interact and converse with his followers on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. The response was great and a follower suggested doing it in person. That’s exactly what he did.
In the spring of 2014 he hosted his first conversation party with both males and females, ages 22-40. It’s an environment for like-minded people to have an open discussion about relationships in a comfortable environment. The majority tend to be female but Troy says he makes it a point to recruit men so the atmosphere and conversation can be balanced. “People who come to these events may be looking for answers but also may be looking to meet someone,” says the relationship coach. The parties have a one-hour meet and greet where attendees can get to know one another followed by a 2-hour discussion led by Spry. This year there will be guest speaker and Match Maker Julie Wadley to help host and facilitate.
The 2nd conversation party will be on Sunday, May 7, 2017 in Charlotte, NC. For tickets to the event, called “Where is the Love?”: Click here